In society there are two extremes - those who focus on problems and those who focus on solutions.The ones who focus on problems are usually coming from a position of lack. They are often fairly negative and greatly affected by their environment and experiences. They like to blame other people.
Paradoxically, the ones who focus on solutions often see abundance. They are positive and rise above any negative experiences. They see the challenging people around them as their teachers.You may be surprised to hear that both types of people are merely operating strategies. A strategy is simply a methodology, a technique that one implements to get through an experience. Your strategies do not define you - the seven dwarfs were so unfortunate when they were defined by their behaviour because those labels merely served to reinforce their strategies. I do sometimes wonder whether Sleepy would still be sleepy if you changed his name. What do you think?
You can decide to change your behaviour today. Start by seeing the solutions to all your challenges. They are out there. All you need to do is look.