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Are you READY to Let Go of Negative Emotions?

Posted on Wednesday, June 03, 2015 by Positivevoice

Whilst this may sound like an unusual question, it is a very important one. If you are someone who connects more with your negative emotions than you do with your positive ones, you may, at some level,  not be ready to let go of them. 

Obviously, everyone is slightly different, but the most common reason for not 'being ready' is that to let go of your negative emotions would imply that they were not justified in the first place. It is human nature to fight to be 'perceived' as being right.  However, If you find yourself wanting to be right to the detriment of your well being, consider for a  moment how life would be different if you no longer lived in fear of other people's opinions, judgement or behaviour. 

By means of an example, i will briefly tell the story of one of my recent clients. 'Lucie' worked in finance and had gone straight from one negative work experience into yet another job where she found herself surrounded by bad management, She found that her boss brought out the worst in her and she no longer had control of her emotions. She frequently lost her temper at work and felt close to a breakdown. When she came to me, she was already working her notice period. She had decided to leave her job and wasn't yet sure what she wanted to do next. I almost immediately took her through the 'timeline method' and enabled her to travel back to her early childhood to let go of the very first time she had felt such negative emotions. Lucie was open minded and went though the process with complete ease, Here was someone who was READY to let go of all those negative behaviours and replace them with much more positive strategies. 

The interesting thing about personal development is that, when done well, it allows you to stop blaming others and to take responsibility for your own emotions. When you are the only person in control of the way you feel, the journey of life runs a lot more smoothly. 

So next time you find yourself reacting to what someone else has said, done or implied, STOP and ask yourself what this says about your current state of mind. Sometimes, it is just a sign that you need to get an early night in order to re-charge your batteries, but when you repeatedly behave in a certain way, it is often a sign that there is a deeper, unresolved issue that needs a little work in order to be shifted. 

Many people assume that their behaviour is part of their personality. This is not the case. You are not your behaviour, your behaviour is just a habit that you have cultivated. It can easily be un-done, with just a little conscious effort. The question is, are you ready?





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