My job has recently been transferred from the UK to an Asian country. With the move from my established position to a new challenging role in a new environment, I suddenly found myself lacking my usual level of confidence...

Read more

british accent coaching
Super Speaking Video Courses
Vocal Impact: Download Francesca's DVD and eBook
Let go off Anxiety for now
Let go off Anxiety for now

Positive Voice Blog

How to Become More Convincing and Influential

Posted on Friday, March 06, 2015 by Positivevoice

For starters, I would like to highlight that most politicians have got it all wrong; they are, quite literally, all talk!

In last week’s blog, I told the story of a young student of mine who desperately wanted other people to listen to him. You may remember my main tip:

The people around you act as your mirror; they show you how you are behaving. If you want people to listen to you; listen to them. If you missed last week’s blog, please do have a read now: Last week's Post

When I teach public speaking skills, I always emphasise the need to show interest in your audience and to make your speech as much like a conversation as possible. When you do this, your audience will automatically feel much more valued because they will have the impression that you really care about their opinions. A great knock on effect here, is that they will then become much more interested in your story.

This technique does not need to be reserved for public speaking engagements. It should be incorporated into your everyday life. After all, when someone asks us how we are, whether we had a good weekend, how our holiday was (you fill in the blank), we feel more interesting. You see, if someone is interested in us, we must be interesting and we immediately like these people and value them more.

The main difference between a conversation and a speech is that during a conversation there is an open exchange of ideas, whereas during a speech or presentation, there is a speaker and an audience. So, how do we stop a speech from becoming like a conversation when we add this concept of exchange?

It is quite simple; we ask rhetorical questions or use ‘raise your hand if’ style enquiries.

I like to begin my rhetorical questions in the following manner:

  • I wonder whether….
  • Perhaps…
  • If you’re anything like me…

The above tips should help you to avoid making speeches that are more like conversations or worse still having that are like speeches!

public speaking RSS public speaking twitter public speaking facebook
public speaking blog

Recent Posts



    © all rights reserved Positive Voice
    Web by VMF